I live in the Charlotte North Carolina area. We’ve just had a sad reminder that life is not all rainbows and unicorns. I admit I prefer to focus on the positive, to focus on what is good in life, not what is sad or painful. And yet, sh*t happens.
I just finished retaking EFT and Matrix Reimprinting (MR) training in Surfside Beach (just south of Myrtle Beach for those of you who may not know) with Alina Frank and Craig Weiner. It was fabulous to connect and learn with others on this healing path. The focus of EFT and MR is to heal trauma in our lives. As much as I’d like to pretend stuff doesn’t happen, it does and yet the good news is, it truly can be healed.
So here are a few thoughts on how to handle your emotions around painful or hard events in your life.
1. Get Grounded. Take a moment to simply notice your body and where it is. Feel your feet on the ground. Notice your body on the chair (or whatever you’re sitting or lying on). Look around and notice what is around you. Maybe a lamp, a chair, etc…. Just being very present can be grounding and calming.
2.“Right here, right now, I’m OK” Take a moment to simply breathe and focus on that fact that right here, right now, you are OK. This statement, “Right here, right now, I’m OK” is often used in Tapping to help calm and contain your feelings in the moment. If you feel upset when watching or listening to the news, simply take a few calming, grounding breaths as you tell yourself, “right here, right now, I’m OK.”
3. Take good care of yourself. What and who are your resources? Your friends, family, counselors, coaches you can talk with. Your practices that support you. Prayer, meditation, journaling your feelings, tapping, exercise, listening to music to calm or comfort you. Remember to take great care of your emotional health especially when things look or feel uncomfortable around you.
4. Get professional help if needed. I use the analogy that Tapping or EFT is like dental health. You need to brush everyday. Tapping can be used like that, sorta emotional daily brushing. But just like there are times you need to see your dentist for bigger needs, there are times you need help to deal with your emotions. Some signs to look for might include: having trouble functioning well at work or at home, experiencing excessive levels of fear or or worry, or using food or alcohol to feel better. Please reach out to me when you feel you may need more help.
5. Focus on the bigger picture. Depending on your spiritual beliefs, you may find solace in seeing the situation or event as a piece in a larger puzzle that as humans we simply don’t understand. There may be a higher purpose to all things that we term as “bad” when in reality from a spiritual perspective, “It’s all good”. What if all of this is happening for us, instead of to us?
Simply put, I believe our real purpose is to spread love in all situations and yet sometimes we need a little help to get there.
Sending you love, today and always,
Ruthi
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